Part #2. The meaning of your communication is the response you get.
The responsibility of communicating with your child lies with you as the parent. So if you say something to your child and he/she seems to misunderstand you, do not blame your child. Just think of a different way with which you can communicate the same thing until your child understands you. It is so much easier to blame others than to accept responsibility. Accepting responsibility might be painful at first but it is so much more powerful than blame and is conducive to change.
Part #3. If what you are doing is not working, do something different
Take a moment and reflect on how you react when your children misbehave. How do you respond when there is a conflict between you and your child? Is this response appropriate and in proportion to the situation at hand? More importantly, is this response working for you? If not, then isn’t it time to try something different?
Maybe your child comes back from school with a bad state of mind. He may be rude. As a parent, you can communicate with a number of options. You can scold him. It may further spoil his mood. You can give him a smile, ask him to listen to a good story, or give him a hug as well to bring him in the right state of mind.
We know that there is an equal opposite reaction to every action. If you want to change your child’s behavior, start by changing your own actions and their reactions will change in response to your changed actions of yours.