NLP is based on a number of presuppositions. These presuppositions are simply assumptions or generalizations about the world. If you practice and adopt these presuppositions, it will help to ease your journey through your effective parenting. They will explore new choices for you to adopt and exercise. Here are some of the NLP presuppositions that you can use for building new options.
Part #1 – The map is not the territory and people respond according to their map of the world
We all perceive the world through our five senses –the external territory. We then take this external phenomenon and make an internal representation of it –the map. This external map we create of the world outside is influenced by what we call filters in NLP. These are our perceptions, our beliefs, and values. It follows then that what is outside can never be, the exact same as what we create inside our brain.
Furthermore, each person, according to his or her own filters, will create a different map of the same world that we perceive. In other words, we each have our individual map of the world and in order to communicate effectively and easily, it is important to understand the internal reality or the map of the person we are communicating with.
In this instance, the other person is our child. As a parent, it is extremely important that we are able to look at the world through the eyes of our children. See what they are seeing, hear what they are hearing and feel what they are feeling. It is only after meeting them at their own map of the world that we can gently steer them in a different direction if need be.
What can help you as a parent to understand your child’s world is watching their favorite TV program or movie, listening to their favorite music, laughing with them at the latest cartoon the story, and familiarising yourself with the material of their favorite role-model or hero as these things play big influencers in your child’s world.